If you know what your criteria are for the life you want, it can be much easier to decide how you want to allocate your time. To get clarity on your critieria, list what is important to you. Then prioritize by asking this questions, "It is okay if I can have this, but not that." Replacing "this" and "that" with your criteria until you have a list in an order that works for you. It may only take me two lines to convey this, and it may take you days to get a satisfactory list. Be patient.
Consider that when you say yes to one thing that you are saying no to a host of other options. I say yes to working late which means I end up saying no to having personal time. Does that work for me? I say yes to helping my sister out over the weekend which means I end up saying no to tea with a friend.
Are you okay with saying no to the other options? Most of the time, we don't think of the things we might be saying no to until later or not at all. And this is fine usually, since we are okay with the choice we made. For people who prefer to have options, making a choice and thus saying no to the other options can be very difficult. For options people, getting clear on criteria can release the tension around making decisions.
Create your world your way.
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